The Female Sex Drive Peak
Despite our strong notion that women are from Venus and men from Mars, society still strives to think of the genders as equal in every respect. That may be admirable in theory, from a fairness perspective, but essentially flawed in its disregard of a fundamental fact concerning human anatomy. Physically and psychologically, the genders are different; consequently their sex drive will also differ. A comparison between the female sex drive peak and its male equivalent will give us insight into human nature.
The Male
The importance of sex for males is distinctive in the relative straightforwardness
of their approach to sex. Men are designed to quickly respond to sexual
stimulation, to take action in seeking out sex, and to be less sensitive
about their choice of sex partners. They appreciate casual encounters and,
regardless of the absence or presence of sex in their lives, males are more
likely to fantasize or masturbate more often than their female counterparts.
It has been speculated that these characteristics of male sexuality is related
to men’s inherent view on procreation, the whole being about spreading
their seed so as to ensure continuation of the species.
The Female
Women are more complicated and indirect in their sexual needs. The female
sex drive peaks when physical desire is supplemented by social, cultural
and emotional factors. Peer pressure or accepted practices are as likely
to influence their interest in sex as mere physical attraction. Above all,
sex is deemed to be a relationship activity for women. An emotional connection
with their partner is typically important, whereas pursuit of sexual satisfaction
is a secondary concern, which partially explains why the female orgasm is
not as readily attainable as that of the male’s. Presumably, these
characteristics are equally grounded in nature. Due to the ever-present
potential risk of pregnancy, a woman tends to select a sex partner who can
support her emotionally, as well as financially.
Men vs Women
The female sex drive should thus be seen as far more contextual and abstract
than that of the men’s, which is more physical in nature. A look at
the effects of external influences with regard to sex confirms this fact.
For instance, in examining the effects of alcohol on the sexual behavior
of both genders, little change occurs in the sexual desire and need of males
who have ingested alcohol. On the other hand, the female sex drive peaks
in conjunction with alcohol consumption; that is, a woman who has a drink
or two is more apt to let go of the inhibitions that might otherwise prevent
her from acting out her desires.
The biological clock further separates men and women’s sexual tendencies. Men’s sexual drive is at its peak from teenage years to mid-twenties, while the female sex drive peaks somewhere around her thirties. Many believe that it is natural for women to have a strong desire for sex around those years as they feel a need to conceive before they reach a time in their life when having a baby would be fraught with risks.
To summarize, men and women differ in terms of why, how and when they are most interested in sex. Both genders possess a distinctive overall approach to sex; one exercises masculine assertiveness while the other uses feminine caution with regard to relationships.
Written by Michael Seth
Michael Seth has devoted his career to the field of sexual health. His experience and skillful approach to counseling to increase sex drive put him in a unique position to answer your questions and concerns. See his website at www.increasesexdrive.com.
