Becoming a Sexual Magnet
The following are some basic guidelines that, according to scientific scrutiny, will increase your sexual magnetism.
- The golden rule with appearances is to be clean and well groomed (duh?!). Being a blond bombshell or tall, dark and handsome matters much less than does cleanliness and general hygiene. The olfactory clues you give off are vital.
Maintain good eye contact with the person you are interested in. - Keep your back straight. Good posture can make or break your good looks.
- Smile a lot. To increase your sex drive, an honest-to-goodness sunny smile is alluring for anyone.
- Let your personality shine through. Personality is ultimately more important to both men and women than a fabulous body. While accenting a great figure can't always hurt, don't neglect showing off who you are on the inside.
- In public, be polite and courteous to everybody (including waiters and waitresses). Be confident, but if you are really serious about someone, refrain from becoming the center of attention (this can be threatening).
- A good tip to increase sex drive would be to listen to what s/he has to say. Talk about things that you have in common and don't veer off into a self-inflated monologue about one of your obscure hobbies. Though it is important to tell a new love interest all about yourself, let your story unfold naturally, with lots of give and take in the conversation.
- Wondering how much attention you should lavish? Don't be shy to express your interest (call, make a date, etc.) but don't suffocate a new lover.
- Don't talk about past lovers.
- Be friendly and respectful with his/her friends and parents.
- To pick up on sex drive clues about whether s/he is interested in you, tune in to non-verbal signals. Body positioning should be 'open and inviting'. S/he should be leaning in towards you, leaving his/her arms open and so on. You should mimic the positions that s/he assumes. Getting someone interested in you is another matter.
- Light touches are a very sensual way to test the waters of attraction. Brush some dust off of his/her shoulder, touch his/her sleeve lightly when making a point. Note whether s/he touches you back or makes it easier for you to make contact again. Use your judgment and don't invade his/her space.
- Another little trick to put a new date at ease and increase sex drive is to fiddle with your hands, twirl a pencil or straw or play with your napkin or drinking glass. This shows nerves and puts your date at ease.
- Make your romantics intentions clear, but don't forget to be sensitive to signals for the go-ahead. Bulldozing ahead when s/he hasn't given the non-verbal clues to do so is really off-putting.
- Have fun.
